A young man was once sitting and contemplating over his upcoming fight. His opponent was much bigger and much stronger than him and he had a very great chance of getting hurt. He had little chance of winning and his critics made him know this. There would be a large crowd attending this fight, thus the man was worried about being embarrassed in front of his peers. He felt as though he was trapped in a cage, but he decided to fight and there was no way out.
This man had no option but to overcome his fear and defeat this giant, and he did it with nothing but a stick and a catapult. When David won against Goliath he became a hero. Yes he had faith on his side but what if he was too afraid to fight; he would have run away and neither you nor I would know who David was.
Is fear holding you back? Have you had and moments to be great lately and failed because of fear of the unknown?
Sometimes being comfortable can prevent us from reaching our potential. I used to be very shy, I was always afraid of the outcomes of doing something that was out of the ordinary. I was afraid of what others would think if I said or did something that could possibly be perceived as strange. Most of us have been through this more than once in our lives especially regarding relationships, “should I let her know I have feelings for her, what if she laughs at me.” Later in life I came to the conclusion that; so what if I’m laughed at, the moment only lasts a second and at least I had the balls to dear, which is a lot better than being the guy or girl who is the first to laugh but never takes any chances.
In our lives we are faced with similar situations all the time, do we step out of the crowd and dear to be great or do we simply follow and realise at the end of our lives that we were nothing but a sheep.
When last have you stepped out of your comfort zone? Did if feel good? Unlikely, it’s not always going to be easy in fact it’s more likely to be a challenge to do something different but I guarantee it’ll be more rewarding then doing nothing.
I heard on the radio today that 90% of the reason that people die while choking is because they leave the room because they do not want to be embarrassed. 90% of people die from choking because they are afraid of what people think of them.
You have to ask yourself, do I want to die another forgettable face in the crowd? Or do I want to live my life to be remembered?
I don’t have the answers to these questions. Guess we’ll have to wait and see.
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Friday, February 27, 2009
Saturday, February 21, 2009
Use the hand you're dealt
Life a game of cards!
A friend of mine gave me the idea to write about how sometimes we get despondent because of the hands we are dealt in life, for example not being as rich as Paris Hilton or as handsome as Brad Pitt.
I thought this was a particularly pressing subject. I often hear people complaining about how they are so poor and how girls and boys do like them. I would be lying if I said I have never thought this myself. Not coming from a particularly wealthy family used to get me down at times especially when I was younger. When I was growing up my family was dirt poor, I remember how my parents struggled to manage their money. This used to depress me when my friends had things that I knew I was never going to have.
Hind sight is a wonderful thing however, I now realise that I didn’t need the full Ninja Turtle set, or the latest Nintendo games. In actual fact all I was trying to do when I was younger was the mini version of keeping up with the Joneses.
Now that was a long time ago and this is now. I’m a little older and wiser, and although I think it’s safe to say that I still like nice things. I continue to ask myself this question... Where is the line between having nice things and competing in an endless race that has no prizes except a big credit history and looming debt?
When we were young the fact that we didn’t have much money was out of our control. Now we’re older and our destiny is our own. If you are unhappy what are you doing to change that?
Complaining achieves nothing. I was recently in a situation where I was not content with my life; things didn’t seem to be going my way. I had only two choices, one was to complain about it and do nothing or I could change something. So I did. I’m not going to dwell on my changes or the effects that they had on me but rather talk about how we have a choice.
When I was younger I used to watch a kids program which had the slogan “knowledge is power”. The more I think about it, the more relevant it is. Recently, I was in fear of losing my job. It was more hypochondria than anything else, but it made me realise that thanks to the amalgamation of knowledge and the contacts that I have made over the years, I could probably start my own business and survive. In other words with the skills I have gained and knowledge I have acquired I have empowered myself.
In other words don’t just complain about the hand you’ve dealt, make changes and take opportunities. If you are a cleaner and you’re content with being a cleaner then you’re an achiever but if you’re a cleaner and you constantly wish to be something better and you are doing nothing about it, then you are not enabling yourself for change and you will live an unhappy life.
A friend of mine gave me the idea to write about how sometimes we get despondent because of the hands we are dealt in life, for example not being as rich as Paris Hilton or as handsome as Brad Pitt.
I thought this was a particularly pressing subject. I often hear people complaining about how they are so poor and how girls and boys do like them. I would be lying if I said I have never thought this myself. Not coming from a particularly wealthy family used to get me down at times especially when I was younger. When I was growing up my family was dirt poor, I remember how my parents struggled to manage their money. This used to depress me when my friends had things that I knew I was never going to have.
Hind sight is a wonderful thing however, I now realise that I didn’t need the full Ninja Turtle set, or the latest Nintendo games. In actual fact all I was trying to do when I was younger was the mini version of keeping up with the Joneses.
Now that was a long time ago and this is now. I’m a little older and wiser, and although I think it’s safe to say that I still like nice things. I continue to ask myself this question... Where is the line between having nice things and competing in an endless race that has no prizes except a big credit history and looming debt?
When we were young the fact that we didn’t have much money was out of our control. Now we’re older and our destiny is our own. If you are unhappy what are you doing to change that?
Complaining achieves nothing. I was recently in a situation where I was not content with my life; things didn’t seem to be going my way. I had only two choices, one was to complain about it and do nothing or I could change something. So I did. I’m not going to dwell on my changes or the effects that they had on me but rather talk about how we have a choice.
When I was younger I used to watch a kids program which had the slogan “knowledge is power”. The more I think about it, the more relevant it is. Recently, I was in fear of losing my job. It was more hypochondria than anything else, but it made me realise that thanks to the amalgamation of knowledge and the contacts that I have made over the years, I could probably start my own business and survive. In other words with the skills I have gained and knowledge I have acquired I have empowered myself.
In other words don’t just complain about the hand you’ve dealt, make changes and take opportunities. If you are a cleaner and you’re content with being a cleaner then you’re an achiever but if you’re a cleaner and you constantly wish to be something better and you are doing nothing about it, then you are not enabling yourself for change and you will live an unhappy life.
Thursday, February 19, 2009
stop and smell the roses
Stop and take a deep breath.
“There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.”
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
The economic crunch has come and people all over the world are starting to feel its effects. Food prices are up, petrol is going up and people are losing their jobs at an alarming rate. I was until recently unaffected by the credit crunch. Yes life was swell I had a well paying job and I was doing alright in it.
Then came the meeting! My bosses and I and some other staff had a meeting recently to discuss how we can make more money, setting targets for each staff member and putting procedures in place to help enable us to meet those targets. Of course when there are targets to be met, a plan has to be made to meet those targets.
Looking at my portfolio I realised that it wasn’t good enough to ensure a constant stream of revenue, thus something had to be done. I had to generate a larger client base and ensure that the jobs I was working on were a success. So I started burning the midnight oil, those of you know me well know that this is not necessarily an uncommon thing, but this time it was different every waking moment over the last while has been spent thinking about ways to ensure my targets are met, and I have been working thirteen hour days. My point is I was getting tired.
I needed to generate income and I needed to rest. Fortunately this was noticed by one of my staff who pointed out that I wasn’t working smart only hard. I’m in recruitment so when we have an interview it takes an hour of our time, what she said to me was that I need to pre-screen my candidates better. In other words don’t just bring everyone in for an interview ensure I have the best coming in thus reducing the amount of time I spend interviewing and increasing the time I have to do other important tasks like admin and if I get admin done at work then I don’t have to do it at home.
Which is what I started doing; this did allow me more time but didn’t change my attitude. I was still on the war path to bring in as much business as possible and work as hard as I could; now I’m not saying this is a bad thing. Setting goals and working hard will always make you an achiever so never stop.
What I did change was the way I was looking at my problems. I was viewing all of them as being of the utmost importance so I was frantically trying to do everything at once. I have now found a system for prioritising my work which enables me to only think about the most important tasks at any given time. Although this has not decreased the amount of work I have but it has taken off some of the pressure I was putting on myself, thus giving me piece of mind.
Now being in an environment that I find myself, it’s quite fast paced so often I tend to feel overwhelmed by how much I need to get done at a given time, which has at times caused me great stress but has also caused me to become frantic and provide sub standard work. What I have found is taking the occasional breath helps. This could be done literally, which does give you a sense of release, but what I really mean is stop and smell the roses once in a while. Take a walk. I find taking a few minutes to drink a cup of tea outside once a day changes my whole outlook for the rest of the day. It’s a time to align my thoughts and get my A into G while relaxing my eyes, because I work at a computer and relax my mind.
Don’t try to pass life by and get ahead of yourself, I believe we need to make plans but sometimes it’s nice to just let plans make themselves.
“Never lose sight of this important truth, that no one can be truly great until he has gained a knowledge of himself, a knowledge which can only be acquired by occasional retirement.”
Johann Georg von Zimmermann
Please let me know what you think of this blog
B
“There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room, your garden or even your bathtub.”
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
The economic crunch has come and people all over the world are starting to feel its effects. Food prices are up, petrol is going up and people are losing their jobs at an alarming rate. I was until recently unaffected by the credit crunch. Yes life was swell I had a well paying job and I was doing alright in it.
Then came the meeting! My bosses and I and some other staff had a meeting recently to discuss how we can make more money, setting targets for each staff member and putting procedures in place to help enable us to meet those targets. Of course when there are targets to be met, a plan has to be made to meet those targets.
Looking at my portfolio I realised that it wasn’t good enough to ensure a constant stream of revenue, thus something had to be done. I had to generate a larger client base and ensure that the jobs I was working on were a success. So I started burning the midnight oil, those of you know me well know that this is not necessarily an uncommon thing, but this time it was different every waking moment over the last while has been spent thinking about ways to ensure my targets are met, and I have been working thirteen hour days. My point is I was getting tired.
I needed to generate income and I needed to rest. Fortunately this was noticed by one of my staff who pointed out that I wasn’t working smart only hard. I’m in recruitment so when we have an interview it takes an hour of our time, what she said to me was that I need to pre-screen my candidates better. In other words don’t just bring everyone in for an interview ensure I have the best coming in thus reducing the amount of time I spend interviewing and increasing the time I have to do other important tasks like admin and if I get admin done at work then I don’t have to do it at home.
Which is what I started doing; this did allow me more time but didn’t change my attitude. I was still on the war path to bring in as much business as possible and work as hard as I could; now I’m not saying this is a bad thing. Setting goals and working hard will always make you an achiever so never stop.
What I did change was the way I was looking at my problems. I was viewing all of them as being of the utmost importance so I was frantically trying to do everything at once. I have now found a system for prioritising my work which enables me to only think about the most important tasks at any given time. Although this has not decreased the amount of work I have but it has taken off some of the pressure I was putting on myself, thus giving me piece of mind.
Now being in an environment that I find myself, it’s quite fast paced so often I tend to feel overwhelmed by how much I need to get done at a given time, which has at times caused me great stress but has also caused me to become frantic and provide sub standard work. What I have found is taking the occasional breath helps. This could be done literally, which does give you a sense of release, but what I really mean is stop and smell the roses once in a while. Take a walk. I find taking a few minutes to drink a cup of tea outside once a day changes my whole outlook for the rest of the day. It’s a time to align my thoughts and get my A into G while relaxing my eyes, because I work at a computer and relax my mind.
Don’t try to pass life by and get ahead of yourself, I believe we need to make plans but sometimes it’s nice to just let plans make themselves.
“Never lose sight of this important truth, that no one can be truly great until he has gained a knowledge of himself, a knowledge which can only be acquired by occasional retirement.”
Johann Georg von Zimmermann
Please let me know what you think of this blog
B
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Final destination
What is your destination?
I was listening to a speaker this morning and he was talking about how the challenges life brings us helps us to reach a point or a destination, whether we want it to or not. This got me thinking about a rough patch I went through in my life a long time ago, back in high school.
Well like most teenagers I also went through puberty, unlike all I had the worst pimples you could imagine. I used to be careful just in case someone touched my face for fear of it exploding. Well this coupled with the lack of a social life, feeling like no girl could ever want me and the stresses of high school brought me to the point where I got depressed. Really depressed so depressed suicide went through my mind.
Being religious however never allowed me to take the next step on this idea, the thought of eternal damnation just didn’t blow my hair back so that was the end of that. Well no! Not allowing myself instant gratification by causing my own death didn’t solve the problem. I was still depressed. And it was just getting worse.
Martin Luther King stated: “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” Maybe he had bad acne when he was a child as well. At the time I didn’t know who Martin Luther King was and had no idea what he had said; in fact he had no impact on my life what so ever at the time. So I’ll come back to him later.
The thought that got me through the whole mess was simple, I was in tears one day thinking about how rubbish my life was and how everyone had it good and I had it so bad, generally depressing myself more. The thought was so simple in fact I can out it in a phrase. “Tomorrow is a day” believe it or not this was the thought that pulled me right out of depression.
This may seem like a simple thing but when you think about it, it can change your life like it did mine. I knew then like I know now that the world is probably not going to end tomorrow, the sun is going to continue shining and life will continue to exist. The fact that today may seem gloomy and things aren’t necessarily going my way is not going to impact this. I’m not saying tomorrow all your problems are going to magically disappear but they may the next day.
By which time you may very well have new problems. But this time you are now in a position where you can take them by the horns because your experience has shown you how. “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”
Another thing that pulled me away from my depression was the thought what ‘ I do today is not what I am going to be doing in twenty years’ . There are new adventures just round the corner. But our experience prepares us for those adventures. For example, very few people enjoy high school but looking back without it, we wouldn’t be who we are today. For example how would we have learned to interact with others if we were not social in high school? How would we learn anything if we did not stimulate our brains? Lastly how would we have built any character if it was easy?
So what is my final destination, I don’t know but I’m excited to find out. I am a firm believer in looking on the bright side of things, there is a lesson in everything and every cloud has a silver lining. Sometimes the bad out ways the good, but there can always be some good. If we focus on the good no matter what our destination is we enjoy getting there.
Please let me know what you think by leaving a comment
I was listening to a speaker this morning and he was talking about how the challenges life brings us helps us to reach a point or a destination, whether we want it to or not. This got me thinking about a rough patch I went through in my life a long time ago, back in high school.
Well like most teenagers I also went through puberty, unlike all I had the worst pimples you could imagine. I used to be careful just in case someone touched my face for fear of it exploding. Well this coupled with the lack of a social life, feeling like no girl could ever want me and the stresses of high school brought me to the point where I got depressed. Really depressed so depressed suicide went through my mind.
Being religious however never allowed me to take the next step on this idea, the thought of eternal damnation just didn’t blow my hair back so that was the end of that. Well no! Not allowing myself instant gratification by causing my own death didn’t solve the problem. I was still depressed. And it was just getting worse.
Martin Luther King stated: “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.” Maybe he had bad acne when he was a child as well. At the time I didn’t know who Martin Luther King was and had no idea what he had said; in fact he had no impact on my life what so ever at the time. So I’ll come back to him later.
The thought that got me through the whole mess was simple, I was in tears one day thinking about how rubbish my life was and how everyone had it good and I had it so bad, generally depressing myself more. The thought was so simple in fact I can out it in a phrase. “Tomorrow is a day” believe it or not this was the thought that pulled me right out of depression.
This may seem like a simple thing but when you think about it, it can change your life like it did mine. I knew then like I know now that the world is probably not going to end tomorrow, the sun is going to continue shining and life will continue to exist. The fact that today may seem gloomy and things aren’t necessarily going my way is not going to impact this. I’m not saying tomorrow all your problems are going to magically disappear but they may the next day.
By which time you may very well have new problems. But this time you are now in a position where you can take them by the horns because your experience has shown you how. “What doesn’t kill me makes me stronger.”
Another thing that pulled me away from my depression was the thought what ‘ I do today is not what I am going to be doing in twenty years’ . There are new adventures just round the corner. But our experience prepares us for those adventures. For example, very few people enjoy high school but looking back without it, we wouldn’t be who we are today. For example how would we have learned to interact with others if we were not social in high school? How would we learn anything if we did not stimulate our brains? Lastly how would we have built any character if it was easy?
So what is my final destination, I don’t know but I’m excited to find out. I am a firm believer in looking on the bright side of things, there is a lesson in everything and every cloud has a silver lining. Sometimes the bad out ways the good, but there can always be some good. If we focus on the good no matter what our destination is we enjoy getting there.
Please let me know what you think by leaving a comment
Tuesday, February 10, 2009
We All Wanna Be Big Rock Stars
We all wanna be big rock stars
I was in my car the other day and I was listening to that song “We all wanna be big rock stars… fifteen cars,”
This got me thinking, I used to want the rock star life style, I used to regularly sing, “take my picture by the pool cause I’m the next big thing!”
But what is the rock star life style, besides actually performing on stage, what is it? The more I read or hear about the “stars” the less I think I want to be one. The song goes,…”and the drugs come cheap we’ll all stay skinny cause be just won’t eat.” Personally I’m not so into the drug thing. From what I’ve seen it makes smart people stupid with them and stupid people become retarded.
Another thing I’ve noticed about rock stars is they all die young. Me I would rather be something with a little more longevity, although I’m kind of looking forward to the next chapter of my life I think I’ll enjoy my time alive as long as possible.
So we all want to be big rock stars… The more I think about it the less I’m interested. I can’t honestly imagine my life sitting around making up nice sounding songs. Furthermore the more you sit around thinking of cool hip songs, the less you actually live, which means your song will have no depth, kind of like talking to an infant.
I think the only part of the rock star life style I do like is the cars. Yes I’m materialistic enough to say I like fast cars, which are generally follow by racy women. Having fallen in love recently and looking to propose, I don’t think I’m interested in fast women, more so I’m less interested in contracting an STD. The real problem is sure you can have loads of fun with loads of girls but the more you do it, the less it means. It’s like a candle, eventually it burns out, and then all you’re left with is old memories of the good days.
You often see the stereotype high school football hero depicted as a washed up loser. Me I don’t want to be a loser.
Where am I going with this?
If we all want to be big rock stars and party all night and sleep all day, take loads of drugs and drink our lives away. Then why did Kurt Cobaine and Elvis Presley kill themselves?
What do you want out of your life? A big fancy car or life that has meaning? Do you want to attend all the big parties, or do you want, to have a few close friends who truly know who you are? The offspring said it in one of their songs. You know everybody’s name but there was no one there you know.”
I’m not sure what I want these days. Sometimes I want to be the guy cut off from the world other times I want to be in a crowd, but most of all lately I want to be an asset to society and not a liability.
My goals are simple do the best I can at whatever I am doing and make a difference wherever I can. I want to find meaning and embrace happiness. I want to cast aside the negative and nurture the positive.
I seek balance…
Please let me know what you thought of this blog; thanks and any advise on this subject or to direct my blog
I was in my car the other day and I was listening to that song “We all wanna be big rock stars… fifteen cars,”
This got me thinking, I used to want the rock star life style, I used to regularly sing, “take my picture by the pool cause I’m the next big thing!”
But what is the rock star life style, besides actually performing on stage, what is it? The more I read or hear about the “stars” the less I think I want to be one. The song goes,…”and the drugs come cheap we’ll all stay skinny cause be just won’t eat.” Personally I’m not so into the drug thing. From what I’ve seen it makes smart people stupid with them and stupid people become retarded.
Another thing I’ve noticed about rock stars is they all die young. Me I would rather be something with a little more longevity, although I’m kind of looking forward to the next chapter of my life I think I’ll enjoy my time alive as long as possible.
So we all want to be big rock stars… The more I think about it the less I’m interested. I can’t honestly imagine my life sitting around making up nice sounding songs. Furthermore the more you sit around thinking of cool hip songs, the less you actually live, which means your song will have no depth, kind of like talking to an infant.
I think the only part of the rock star life style I do like is the cars. Yes I’m materialistic enough to say I like fast cars, which are generally follow by racy women. Having fallen in love recently and looking to propose, I don’t think I’m interested in fast women, more so I’m less interested in contracting an STD. The real problem is sure you can have loads of fun with loads of girls but the more you do it, the less it means. It’s like a candle, eventually it burns out, and then all you’re left with is old memories of the good days.
You often see the stereotype high school football hero depicted as a washed up loser. Me I don’t want to be a loser.
Where am I going with this?
If we all want to be big rock stars and party all night and sleep all day, take loads of drugs and drink our lives away. Then why did Kurt Cobaine and Elvis Presley kill themselves?
What do you want out of your life? A big fancy car or life that has meaning? Do you want to attend all the big parties, or do you want, to have a few close friends who truly know who you are? The offspring said it in one of their songs. You know everybody’s name but there was no one there you know.”
I’m not sure what I want these days. Sometimes I want to be the guy cut off from the world other times I want to be in a crowd, but most of all lately I want to be an asset to society and not a liability.
My goals are simple do the best I can at whatever I am doing and make a difference wherever I can. I want to find meaning and embrace happiness. I want to cast aside the negative and nurture the positive.
I seek balance…
Please let me know what you thought of this blog; thanks and any advise on this subject or to direct my blog
Tuesday, February 3, 2009
The wonder years.
When I was younger I always wanted to be, actually I can honestly say that I never really wanted to be anything. I always saw myself sitting by a pool or just having fun on the yacht. It never dawned on me that I would have to work at some point. Then as I got older I decided I wanted to be rich, again it didn’t dawn on me that there was work involved here.
Then I got to standard five when I saw the movie A Few Good Men, suddenly a lawyer became an option. After reanalysing that Lawyers get paid by the hour I decided no, that wasn’t for me. Maybe I should own my own business. Good get others to do the work for me, great plan!
Then I got distracted...
I hit puberty and started to notice the opposite sex! How it ruined my life, just jokes I’m very happy now. I have a wonderful girlfriend, (just in case she reads this)
But looking back on my time I realised that I wasn’t very good with members of the opposite sex, I spent way too much time chasing them with way too little reward. My dreams had become my next conquest or “kiss.” What happened to the driven billionaire? I would spend on average about three to four nights a week at the local night club in search of that special someone or at least that special someone for that night. I lost all motivation to work hard to become someone great instead of someone great for a drink and some laughs.
My life started to fall apart, in going out so much functioning during the day became an impossible task, hence I slept most of my days asleep, now this may seem fine to some of you thinking hey I go out all the time and sleep in the day or some of you reading this and thinking he’s light weight. But the point is it got to me. My life was one big party. When your life is one big party why bother doing anything to stop it?
Slowly things started to change though, the party stopped being fun, I was going out and not having a good time, but it had eaten away at my other interests, I didn’t have anything else to do. The void started to get bigger and bigger and I started to get depressed, but it seemed the only way to overcome this was to party some more, to go out and get that girl to fall for my tricks. Drinking played a role!
I found myself in a crappy job which just sustained my partying, living at home with a serious weight problem.
I had to make a change, but how? I was stuck in a rut! Fortunately for me it did work out and I did meet that certain someone who changed my life. (Yes she put up with my bad habits and faults of which there were many!) I stopped all the partying and left the city. I got a decent job and although I’m no billionaire at least I’m on a track that could lead me in a direction of positivity.
The point of this blog was to ask, what are your dreams? Have you been distracted lately, now your distraction doesn’t necessarily have to be girls and parties? It could be that you are stuck in a job you hate or a relationship that is stopping you from reaching your potential. Think about it and let me know your thoughts.
As for me I’m working hard and watching what I eat. “Even though sometimes still eating it” but hey life can’t be all work and no fun, I’ve realigned my thoughts, my focus is no longer going to be my next score but how I can improve my life not by wishing but by working for it, I don’t believe sitting down and doing nothing has ever done anyone any good, except maybe if they were sick or something.
All I’m saying is watch the line and don’t lose sight of your dreams.
Please let me know your thoughts by adding a comment.
Then I got to standard five when I saw the movie A Few Good Men, suddenly a lawyer became an option. After reanalysing that Lawyers get paid by the hour I decided no, that wasn’t for me. Maybe I should own my own business. Good get others to do the work for me, great plan!
Then I got distracted...
I hit puberty and started to notice the opposite sex! How it ruined my life, just jokes I’m very happy now. I have a wonderful girlfriend, (just in case she reads this)
But looking back on my time I realised that I wasn’t very good with members of the opposite sex, I spent way too much time chasing them with way too little reward. My dreams had become my next conquest or “kiss.” What happened to the driven billionaire? I would spend on average about three to four nights a week at the local night club in search of that special someone or at least that special someone for that night. I lost all motivation to work hard to become someone great instead of someone great for a drink and some laughs.
My life started to fall apart, in going out so much functioning during the day became an impossible task, hence I slept most of my days asleep, now this may seem fine to some of you thinking hey I go out all the time and sleep in the day or some of you reading this and thinking he’s light weight. But the point is it got to me. My life was one big party. When your life is one big party why bother doing anything to stop it?
Slowly things started to change though, the party stopped being fun, I was going out and not having a good time, but it had eaten away at my other interests, I didn’t have anything else to do. The void started to get bigger and bigger and I started to get depressed, but it seemed the only way to overcome this was to party some more, to go out and get that girl to fall for my tricks. Drinking played a role!
I found myself in a crappy job which just sustained my partying, living at home with a serious weight problem.
I had to make a change, but how? I was stuck in a rut! Fortunately for me it did work out and I did meet that certain someone who changed my life. (Yes she put up with my bad habits and faults of which there were many!) I stopped all the partying and left the city. I got a decent job and although I’m no billionaire at least I’m on a track that could lead me in a direction of positivity.
The point of this blog was to ask, what are your dreams? Have you been distracted lately, now your distraction doesn’t necessarily have to be girls and parties? It could be that you are stuck in a job you hate or a relationship that is stopping you from reaching your potential. Think about it and let me know your thoughts.
As for me I’m working hard and watching what I eat. “Even though sometimes still eating it” but hey life can’t be all work and no fun, I’ve realigned my thoughts, my focus is no longer going to be my next score but how I can improve my life not by wishing but by working for it, I don’t believe sitting down and doing nothing has ever done anyone any good, except maybe if they were sick or something.
All I’m saying is watch the line and don’t lose sight of your dreams.
Please let me know your thoughts by adding a comment.
Sunday, February 1, 2009
How do you want to be remembered
When did we stop caring?
Not so long ago there was a movie out called Paying it forward. Now although I must admit the movie didn’t particularly affect me at the time, it seems to be impacting my thoughts recently. Admittedly I’m probably not going to go out and change the world and I’m probably not going to try and feed a nation.
However I think it’s time to be a little more empathetic. Yes, that’s right; I had another life changing occurrence. Last night I was having possibly the most restless night of my life. I couldn’t sleep, I tossed and turned and nothing would get me to sleep. I know what you’re thinking Saturday night why are you trying to sleep any way? Well regardless of why I was tired and I needed the Z’s.
Three o’clock came and went then four o’clock arrived. Now I was finally starting to doze off, when the gate of my complex opened and followed by doof doof music from the car stereo and possibly the loudest talking I’ve ever heard. Then it stopped...
Then a few minutes later my neighbours put their music on full blast and echoed through my flat, five thirty came and this continued, part of me wanted to go over and shoot the bastards and the other part wanted to go over and join in the party. I was infuriated, but then it got me thinking, what types of people are so inconsiderate?
Then however it go me thinking about all the times I’ve been an arsehole to others and most people who know me know I have my moments where I can be the biggest chop ever. Then something Gareth told me rang out my mind. He said you send out messages into the universe and they often come true, so part of me has started to wonder if I’m only being treated the way I have treated others in the past? Is it actually a circle and inevitably it comes back to you?
Again this brought me back to the movie Paying it forward. Which makes me wonder when I look back on it all, would I rather have people think of me as a saint or a dick? Obviously there are other alternatives in between, but my point is how do you want to be remembered? Set goals and work backwards.
Please let me know your thoughts on this post and please post a comment
thanks
Not so long ago there was a movie out called Paying it forward. Now although I must admit the movie didn’t particularly affect me at the time, it seems to be impacting my thoughts recently. Admittedly I’m probably not going to go out and change the world and I’m probably not going to try and feed a nation.
However I think it’s time to be a little more empathetic. Yes, that’s right; I had another life changing occurrence. Last night I was having possibly the most restless night of my life. I couldn’t sleep, I tossed and turned and nothing would get me to sleep. I know what you’re thinking Saturday night why are you trying to sleep any way? Well regardless of why I was tired and I needed the Z’s.
Three o’clock came and went then four o’clock arrived. Now I was finally starting to doze off, when the gate of my complex opened and followed by doof doof music from the car stereo and possibly the loudest talking I’ve ever heard. Then it stopped...
Then a few minutes later my neighbours put their music on full blast and echoed through my flat, five thirty came and this continued, part of me wanted to go over and shoot the bastards and the other part wanted to go over and join in the party. I was infuriated, but then it got me thinking, what types of people are so inconsiderate?
Then however it go me thinking about all the times I’ve been an arsehole to others and most people who know me know I have my moments where I can be the biggest chop ever. Then something Gareth told me rang out my mind. He said you send out messages into the universe and they often come true, so part of me has started to wonder if I’m only being treated the way I have treated others in the past? Is it actually a circle and inevitably it comes back to you?
Again this brought me back to the movie Paying it forward. Which makes me wonder when I look back on it all, would I rather have people think of me as a saint or a dick? Obviously there are other alternatives in between, but my point is how do you want to be remembered? Set goals and work backwards.
Please let me know your thoughts on this post and please post a comment
thanks
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